Leave Your 'Tude at the Door

Ever had a bad day?  What about a bad week? Anyone ever had a bad year?  It is possible and most likely probable that you have. 

Job search is rough on the emotions.  It takes us places we don't want to go...feeling rejected, vulnerable, angry, anxiety-ridden, depressed and sometimes all at the same time.

Check these emotions at the door before you leave your home. 

Amazingly, many people don't see this in themselves, or if they do, perhaps they feel entitled to these emotions. 

It is OK and even normal to have these feelings.  Find someone who will listen when you are having a "spell".

What can you do to prevent and release these emotions:

• Don't take it personally, rejection is part of the process
• Identify a friend who will listen
• Identify another friend who will call you out on your behavior
• Identify yet another friend who will pull you out of a slump
• The decision to let you go was a business transaction only
• This is going to take longer than you want, brace yourself financially
• Carve time out for things you enjoy doing or take up a new hobby

Most likely, everyone will have to go through this job search again. This won't be the last time and believe it or not, it will be easier next time.

Comments

[Career Sherpa]

Renee: Job search definately is an emotional roller coaster! Glad to know that exercise has been your relief and release! Keep on truckin'!

[Renee Lanni]

Exercise truly helps. After almost a year of this malarky, I seem to have alternating good and bad weeks in terms of emotional drain. Getting outside and biking or running, or even thirty minutes on the treadmill works wonders. All is ~temporarily~ forgotten.

[Career Sherpa]

Jack: Thanks for the comment. We certainly are at risk of developing Seasonal Affective Disorder up here in Rochester. Having several friends who serve as "advisors" is usually best. And thanks for the reminder of being a good listener for others!

[Jack Wilson]

Great advice. It is especially hard as we move into the winter months, but gotta shake those little demons. Having a good friend with a good ear is important, just don't bend it to often. Also, you need to be a good listener for the friend in need.

Thanks Hannah

Jack Wilson